Positive Sexuality and Sex Therapy.
My approach to working with issues of sexuality is rooted in a foundation of positive sexuality. Positive sexuality refers to a healthy and fulfilling approach to sexual relationships and experiences. It contrasts the undercurrent of some common cultural frameworks that see sexuality and pleasure as negative.
In the media we are bombarded with so many images and stories that are sexual in nature, it may be surprising to imagine that we live in a sex-negative culture. The problem with our overwhelming exposure to sexual messages is that they present a false idea about how humans experience sexuality and pleasure. On one hand, we get the message that everyone is having sex all the time, and that sex should happen in a very specific way. On the other hand, we get the message that sex is shameful, and if you are having too much sex, or having sex in the wrong way you are a slut, a player, or a pervert.
It’s all very confusing…
Positive sexuality involves having a positive attitude towards one's own sexuality and being comfortable with expressing and exploring it in a safe and consensual manner. It can involve a range of behaviors, such as open communication with partners, setting boundaries and limits, and engaging in satisfying sexual activities. It also involves understanding and respecting one's own and others' sexual desires and needs. Overall, positive sexuality in sex therapy is about promoting healthy and enjoyable sexual experiences for all parties involved.
Sex positivity is an approach to sexuality based on the premise that, individually and collectively, we experience sexuality and pleasure along a wide spectrum. Sex positivity celebrates the diversity of our sexual experiences and interests. It is the ground from which I approach working with relationship issues and issues of sexuality.
With this approach, I address a range of issues of sexuality. I work with people who are exploring their sexual identity and their sexual interests. I also work with people for whom they feel that sex isn’t going very well. They may have issues of premature ejaculation, sexual pain, difficulties with orgasm, or a perception that they have too little or too much interest in sex. I work with couples who have differences in their levels of desire for sex and with couples who want to enhance their experience if sexual connection. I will also work with people who are in non-traditional relationships, open relationship, or polyamorous relationships.
Other issues I work with include:
