Relationship Counselling.
Navigating an intimate relationship is a journey with highs and lows, connection and division, pain and pleasure. When we commit to being with another person, even if it is for a short time, it provides and opportunity for us to experience life through the eyes of another, and that helps us grow.
In ancient times, the alchemists tried to turn lead into gold through a mystical ritual that involved burning the lead in a vessel called a crucible. This ritual provides an analogy for relationship. Relationship becomes a crucible in which we endure the heat of different individuals coming together, growing both separately and together, while trying to maintain the connection that originally brought us together. When we do that successfully it is as if we are creating gold.
People who come together often love each other, but don’t know how to navigate the crucible of relationship. They grow up with little training in how to have an effective intimate relationship, other than what we see in our parents. Sometimes that can be a good model, but often it is dysfunctional in some ways. Getting counselling for your relationship can be a way of building strength and intimacy. The goals are for you to develop an understanding of the psychological, relational, and communication blocks that interfere with an optimal relationship and to learn tools to overcome those blocks and move forward together to the next level of connection in your relationship.
Some of the problems that bring people in for relationship counselling include: a repeating cycle of conflict, poor communication, parenting issues, differences in sexuality, anger, thoughts of separation, financial problems, and infidelity. Relationship problems can also be sparked by one or both partners experiencing anxiety, depression, stress, sleep loss, panic, or job loss.
It is natural for differences to develop over time between individuals who are in relationship. When people put off addressing their relationship problems for a while, the gap can grow wider and wider. This may lead to a loss of trust, which increases the distance and continues the downward spiral of pain in the relationship. It can sometimes feel difficult to see a path that leads to the healing of the relationship. If relationship partners are motivated to work towards reconnection, however, there is a high probability of success through relationship counselling.
Navigating Diverse Relationships
One of my specialties as a relationship counsellor is helping individuals navigating the intricacies of polyamorous relationships, open relationships and ethical non-monogamy.
Polyamorous relationships, open relationships, and ethical non-monogamy represent a spectrum of consensual, intimate connections that extend beyond conventional monogamous partnerships. In polyamorous relationships, individuals engage in multiple, simultaneous romantic or sexual connections with the full knowledge and consent of all parties involved. Open relationships encompass a range of arrangements where partners may engage in sexual or romantic connections outside of the primary relationship. Ethical non-monogamy encompasses these diverse relationship styles, emphasizing honesty, communication, and mutual consent. In my practice, I offer a professional and supportive environment to address the nuanced challenges and dynamics inherent in these alternative relationship structures.
Understanding and Embracing Polyamory:
My expertise encompasses a comprehensive understanding of polyamorous relationships. Through our sessions, we will work together to grasp and appreciate the principles that underpin successful polyamorous connections. Our discussions will be pragmatic, tailored to your unique circumstances.
Effective communication is paramount, particularly in polyamorous networks. I am here to assist you in refining your communication skills, offering practical guidance on expressing desires, establishing boundaries, and communicating emotions openly and authentically.
Navigating emotions such as jealousy and insecurity is a common aspect of polyamorous relationships. Our sessions will focus on developing strategies to manage and understand these emotions, prioritizing your emotional well-being and fostering resilience within your polyamorous connections.
Building Strong Foundations:
The pillars of trust, respect, and open communication are foundational to thriving polyamorous relationships. Our counseling sessions will concentrate on assisting you in building and reinforcing these foundations, establishing a stable framework for the growth and fulfillment of your polyamorous connections.
Embark on a Journey of Discovery:
Should you choose to engage in this professional counseling service, we will embark on a journey to explore the complexities of love within polyamorous relationships, open relationships, and ethical non-monogamy. If you are ready to navigate, understand, and evolve within these diverse relationship dynamics, please feel free to contact me to schedule a counseling session at [Your Contact Information]. I am dedicated to providing a formal and respectful approach to addressing the diverse facets of love in these alternative relationship structures.
Other issues I work with include:
