I work from a three-tiered approach that offers you the opportunity to choose from Short-Term, Medium-Term, or Long-Term therapy. I describe these tiers as Problem Solving, Cognitive Behavioural therapy, and Deep Transformation

Whichever approach you chose for your therapeutic journey, I have a strong belief in honouring the uniqueness of your individual needs and making sure that the approach used is working for you.


There are some times in life when our circumstances create confusion or a feeling of being stuck. We go through the same cycle over and over without finding a way out. Maybe we have friends or family we can talk to, but it is difficult to get an objective opinion. Sometimes the advice we get is well intentioned, but it really doesn't help us find our own voice.

My supportive/problem solving approach is meant to act as a mirror of clarity for you. It helps you see yourself and your problems in a new light. You can explore different solutions without judgment or bias. We work together as a team, combining my understanding of the general human experience and psychology with your understanding and knowledge of your own self and circumstances, to develop short-term solutions to the problems you face and set you on a more effective path for your life.
(This can take from 1 to 6 sessions)


Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is the approach favored by the medical establishment because it is well researched and has been scientifically shown to be effective. Doctors will often recommend CBT as a treatment for depression or anxiety. While it does not work for everyone, this medium-term therapy can be very effective at helping to improve depression, anxiety, panic, anger, posttraumatic stress, and obsessive-compulsive disorder.

Some people want to get help for their issues but they are reluctant to see a counsellor because they don't want to delve into the past and dig up old memories and experiences. If that is the case for you, CBT can be the approach of choice because it focuses on learning new ways of working with present-day thoughts and behaviors.

To simplify, the theory behind CBT is that by changing how you think about your situation you can change how your feel about your life and then you will act in a different way. There are many techniques and strategies used in CBT, but where people find it most helpful is that it can alter the bombardment of negative thoughts that many experience. As part of CBT, you will also learn relaxation techniques and strategies for coping with stress and guilt.
(CBT can take from 6 to 16 sessions)


Deep Transformation counselling is available for those clients who are interested in a deeper, longer-term process with the goal of improving your mood, deepening your knowledge of yourself, magnifying your experience of life, and expanding your spiritual awareness.

Drawing on the analytic, experiential, and transpersonal traditions of psychotherapy, Deep Transformation may include dream interpretation, hypnotherapy, meditation, and encounters with the nature. These, in addition to Problem Solving and CBT, provide the structure that supports you as you journey progressively through deeper levels of self, heal wounds from the past, uncover your original nature, and discover new personal strengths on which to build your future.

With Deep Transformational work, we look at the current crisis you are experiencing as an opportunity. Beyond relieving the pain you are in, the goal is to enter into a process of personal growth that will help you become the most effective human and spiritual being you can be.
(This process can take from 6 sessions to ongoing regular or occasional meetings).

You may have seen a counsellor or psychologist in the past that used one or more of the approaches described above. Or, this may be the first time you are looking for a counsellor. Ultimately, my goal is to help you get what you need in order to feel better about your self and your life. I like to treat my clients as consumers who have a choice, not just of the counsellor they use, but of the kind of therapy they get. If you don't know which approach you prefer, we can talk about your needs and I can recommend the best place to start. If you would like more information on any of the approaches I use, please feel free to contact me by phone or email and I can make some time to discuss your course of therapy over the phone.

Ben Kotler Counsellor

Ben Kotler, MA, RCC

Victoria Address: 1517 Amelia St, Victoria, BC V8W 2J9
Duncan Address: 111 Station Street, Suite 202, Duncan, BC V9L 1M8
Ph: 250-634-1634 ( iPhone Texting Available )
Fax: 1-888-684-6922